Part Two: Honor Your Heart
The last entry, “Show Up!”, talked about the first “way” of being when in a coaching relationship and/or leadership situation. Part Two, “Honor Your Heart,” takes us a little deeper into the journey. ”Heart” in this context has to do with “the heart of the matter” or core values. Honoring your heart requires that you know and understand some things about yourself and your core values, and that you be willing to honor them either by word or deed in your interactions.
The ultimate snake-bite kit: Far too often we get caught up in “what if” scenarios–what if she says this? What if he does that? What if nothing happens at all? I joke with my clients that I sometimes feel they’re asking me for a snake-bite kit with a wide array of anti-venoms for every single species of snake imaginable! When you only respond to the external environment, you’ll never have all the answers. Never. There will always be a new situation for which you can’t prepare–a new snake who will strike without warning. When you are clear within yourself about the key values you want to exemplify in your interactions, it is far easier to listen and respond calmly, no matter what the situation.
So what’s the answer? Go to the heart of the matter–inside yourself. Who do you want to BE in these different situations? Decide the answer to that question before you walk in, be willing to act with authenticity in accordance with those core values, and you possess the ultimate anti-venom to anything that comes.