I just read a great blog on Harvard Business Review that got me thinking about the role of vulnerability in conflict management. The author shared a powerful vignette about a personal conflict that emerged into a larger issue. The conflict ignition point was driven by both parties focusing on convincing each other of the intention they […]
Conflict Management
The “Four Fold Way” of Leading–Part Three
Part Three: Speak your truth without blame or judgment In parts one and two I described the power of “showing up” and “honoring your heart.” Now we turn our attention to speaking your truth without blame or judgment. It seems like it should be easy, but it can be a little more difficult than it […]
The “Four Fold Way” of Leading–Part Two
Part Two: Honor Your Heart The last entry, “Show Up!”, talked about the first “way” of being when in a coaching relationship and/or leadership situation. Part Two, “Honor Your Heart,” takes us a little deeper into the journey. ”Heart” in this context has to do with “the heart of the matter” or core values. Honoring your […]
The “Four Fold Way” of Leading–Part One
Angeles Arrien wrote a wonderful book years ago titled “The Four Fold Way” detailing the wisdom of indigenous peoples for creating healthy relationships for community. I had the pleasure of speaking with Ms. Arrien a few years ago and received her permission to use a modification of her model in the business world to give […]
Abundance Approach to Conflict Management
Conflict resolution or conflict management? Let me first share a baseline assumption born of life experience-though we use the term daily, true “conflict resolution” is a rare commodity. What most of us are experiencing at work and at home on a daily basis is conflict management. And I further submit to you that this is a good thing. […]